It’s basic fire safety. Your people need you, so you’ve got to figure out how to deal with it, even when it’s the last thing you have time or energy for! Try these emotional circuit breakers to help alleviate the burden.

Your lizard brain, while it’s all about feelings, is in the backseat when you’re supposed to feel empathy. Learn about the strange connection between our rational brains and empathy; and how to trick the lizard into empathy.

Blame is everyone’s favorite get-out-of-emotional jail-free card. Unfortunately, it resolves nothing, so it will keep happening. Next time, don’t blame them, teach them how to treat you.

When you’re in the middle of a barrage of self-shaming, your inner monologue dripping with contempt and seething with discontent, do you ever stop and ask, “Why do I do this to myself?!” Learn an exercise to help you manage this caustic self-talk.

Who defines “normal”? You do! Since normal is co-created by every person in that culture, each person has the power to change it. Follow these three steps to be a culture catalyst!

These three tips will help you survive political fights during your family holiday and maintain your sanity!

My childhood challenges, educational richness, and career journeys have created a solid foundation to try, fail, learn, and keep trying until I succeed! Plus, since International Day of the Girl Child coincides with Indigenous Peoples’ Day and Columbus Day, leverage self-awareness to confront your aversion to new worldviews.

When people become aware of a problem, they tend to get stuck on “What can I do?” Self-awareness is the most direct way to contribute to change: What do I need to learn? How does this pain resonate with my experiences? How am I complicit today?

Who gets to define what “normal” is anyway? If you are a person who feels on the outside of the “in” crowd, this post is for you. Let’s talk about how normal is defined, and how to change it.

When political polarization tore us apart. Part III of a series about one family’s journey to becoming anti-racists, with all of the white fragility you’d expect. August 6, 2021 Angelica is a warrior. She describes herself as an intercessor, one in the army of the children of God, dedicated to fighting against evil. Like so […]

One month into our family anti-racism discussion, white fragility abounds. Tensions around an article are the first sign of rocky terrain coming amidst the 2020 election.

Part two of a series.

My family had never talked about racism openly before this. But we committed to learning and discussing together weekly. Each of us is politically passionate, but we completely disagree. AND we’re not good at talking about the hard stuff. Our first reading was about Democracy from the lens of Black history. We were immediately uncomfortable.

Part one of a series.

May 21, 2021 It’s May 2021, and I’m fully vaccinated. You would think that if an after-party in Las Vegas or New Orleans was happening this weekend, I would be on a plane tonight. I can almost feel the tumult of joy, a great song playing that you love to dance to, friends all around […]

April 7, 2021 Ain’t no mountain high, ain’t no valley low, ain’t no river wide enough, baby. -Marvin Gaye There are people in your life that you would move mountains to reach when they are in a crisis. They call, you fly out the door. If getting there requires you to cross the ROUS-infested fire […]

March 30, 2021 Most people are, so it’s a good bet. We are so plugged in…email, Slack, IM, text, post, comment, reply, reply, reply. We are sending and receiving messages all day, every day. So you would think that in this time of hyper-connectivity that loneliness would be at its lowest in human history.  It’s […]